The High School Party

I recently attended a high school party. Well not really. The apartment was a little too baller for that and there was no mom and dad that would come home. Age wise I think most people should have been out of collage but it was still a high school party.

It was not what I was expecting but it was a nice opportunity to observe. As the night went on the music became louder. The conversation became less audible and less coherent. But what was interesting was the interactions fueled by sexual drives. getting laid was definitively in the air. Or in a lot of boys minds anyway.

Hour 1

The crowd is divided into groups of girls and boys with a few mixed ones. quite a random mix.

Hour 2

A few more beers has been consumed. The DJ has increased the volume with a good 15%. A good portion of the boys are scanning for pray. A few girls are doing the same.

Hour 3

More than a few sips of alcohol later it's quite clear who is looking for some action. The girls on the prowl definitively have had a few too many but they are still kinda functional. The boys are displaying the characteristic change in interpersonal skills. Volume has increased with another 25%.

The interesting part is taking place during hour 3 and 4 of interest. This is where a gradual change of approach is noticeable. From shy or maybe overly humoristic and clearly masked approach to start with and ending up with a near verbal nincompoop for intelligent responses using mainly body language to charm the ladies. The lack in ability to read the opposite visual response leads to a dance roughly described with the following example.

1. Person A: leans forward says something he already said a few times and tries to smile.
2. Person B: moves away a little but tries to listen anyway
3. Person A: moves closer and asked for some irrelevant detail
4. Person B: moves away and interacts a little with a nearby bystander, or a fried, or a boyfriend
5. Person A: tries to move in close to break the personal space
6. Person B moves away
7. Person A tries again or changes targets

After all sometimes it leads to success. Sometimes the initial success is aborted and proceeds to intimate relations with the toilet bowl. Then Person A or B might try again. Or not. Either way, the relationship between alcohol consumed, degradation of verbal skills and rise in confidence is interesting. Where is the golden balance? Where is the tipping point of where one shall not go any further?

We did stay a little longer than this tipping point for sure. But left quite swiftly as large parts of the premises became occupied by high-schoolers. 

Naturally this did not happen to all of the visitors. But to enough for me to notice. The rest of the gathering was very nice and I did have a few good conversations with random people from, well everywhere.